So you’re a caregiver? Then you are probably already familiar with the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the day-to-day responsibilities of providing care for an aging parent. You’re exhausted, emotionally and physically. It is hard to watch a parent who was once competent, and in your eyes perhaps even invincible slip into the frailty of old age. You’re dealing with your own emotions, but you have little time to deal with your own grief, as the responsibility quickly falls upon you to be strong and provide support for your loved one.

Caregiving can be mentally draining, especially since most caregivers are trying to balance caring for their own families and full-time jobs on top of their caregiving responsibilities. Many caregivers begin to feel guilty for even thinking of their own needs when their loved one is suffering or in pain, but these emotions should not just be repressed or ignored. Denying these feelings will inevitably lead to caregiver burnout. Caregivers are at an increased risk for depression, and if you are depressed or stressed out, then you will not be able to properly care for your loved one. So it is especially important that you be aware and notice your own feelings, so that you can take the necessary steps to improve your own health and state of mind. If you are healthy and happy, then as a result, the care that you provide for your loved one will be of higher quality.

Most caregivers are so accustomed to giving and caring for others, that they may not even know how to treat themselves. It is important to schedule specific times throughout the week devoted entirely to self-care. Below are some helpful ideas on where to begin.

1. Take care of yourself with diet and exercise – eat well throughout the day, and no matter how busy you are, don’t skip meals, otherwise your energy levels will drop. Exercise at least 3 times a week for 20 minutes, and pick something that you enjoy doing (walking, biking, aerobics class, etc..)

2. Walk away – you won’t walk away permanently from your care responsibilities, but you can take a step back when you need to. Take a break, even if just for a few minutes, or have someone else step in to provide respite care

3. Seek help – 72% of caregivers refuse to receive outside help with their responsibilities; don’t be one of them. Ask a family member to step in and help, or hire a professional home caregiver to give you a break. Also, don’t be afraid to lean on others when you’re stressed, even if it means joining a support group

4. Spoil yourself – reward yourself for all of your hard work, once a week or once a month, go get a massage, have a manicure, go to a movie, or take a hot bath with a glass of wine. Do something that helps you rejuvenate!

5. Devote Time to Mental Well-Being – Each morning, take a few extra minutes to repeat an affirmation, simply focus on calmness or take time to focus on the positive points in your life. Keeping a journal is another great way to relax, getting your thoughts out and onto paper can be very therapeutic and allow you to enjoy some piece of mind.

6. Don’t neglect your health – remember to get yourself to the doctor regularly, especially if you’re feeling ill. You’ll be better help to a senior when you’re in one piece!